I long to have my bottom spanked firmly by my man. I want to be turned over his knee and feel the smack of his hand on my bare bottom. I recently read that only 10% of women enjoy being spanked, but I would venture to guess that there are many more women who appreciate a play-spanking. This type of spanking does not involve any psychological dominance, only a physical dominance of position. I mean the position for myself to be vulnerable to my loving man's firm pats on my behind. Typically this means over his knee, but it can also mean that he turns me onto my stomach on the bed (and holds me down), or if I'm on my back that he brings my knees to my chest to expose my behind. The important thing is that I am somewhat restrained and submissive in my position.

When we're in a playful mood the play-spanking can be initiated in many ways. I prefer an 'excuse' of some mis-deed that I have committed. This mis-deed can be as simple as hogging the blankets or playfully teasing my lover until he takes me bottom-up into his arms or over his knee. I hope that, even though it is a playful spanking, I will enjoy a stinging sensation on my behind. I once heard that there are many nerve endings in a woman's bottom which is why she can become so turned on by the warm glow that only comes with a firm spanking. Even the thought of my bottom being warm and red provides an erotic sensation throughout my body.

A little anticipation before the actual spanking will excite me and prepare me for the pleasure to come. Men may not understand that I still want to be able to say 'no' and fight the very spanking that I desire so much. This is because I want to know that my position is truly vulnerable, and to ensure that his position is in complete control. If this is distressing for some men, then perhaps "safe words" can be used, for example "red" means stop, and "yellow" means I want to ease-off or talk for a minute. The man will then know that unless he hears the 'red' or 'yellow' words, all is fine and its green lights straight ahead!

Another way to initiate these play-spankings can be through fantasy and role playing. For example, I dress up like a school girl (which I hear is quite a turn-on for the men!) and 'confess' to some mis-deed (skipping class, not doing homework, failing a quiz). My loving man may choose the role of the principal or teacher and he then (of course!) decides that a spanking is necessary to discipline me. This however is no disciplinary spanking - unlike the disciplinary kind of spanking there is always the element of play. This element of play is the obvious erotic subtext to the spanking. Warming up my bottom with caresses, tenderly squeezing my bottom, running his hands between my thighs, and of course the much expected spanks. Spanking many times (10-20) in a row is effective to warm my bottom, and then pausing for a caress and spanking again. A fifteen minute spanking session should be long enough to satisfy me, but it can go longer. And of course, I enjoy the cuddling afterwards.

I feel that the play-spanking is often a segue into a sexual experience, however it need not be. If we're in a playful mood and there is any excuse for my man to deliver some swats to my behind - I hope that he does.... even just a few. I will feel reassured that he is in control. For the man who does not realize my spanking needs, I fear that I will sub-consciously mis-behave in hopes of eliciting a spanking - this can be detrimental in two ways: 1) I might end up un-intentionally hurting his feelings, and 2) I might end up receiving a true disciplinary spanking that I might not enjoy as much in reality as I do in my imagination!! So, its better for both of us (my bottom and his ear full of nagging) if I receive tender, yet firm spankings in a playful setting.